Just because your hangover is through doesn’t mean it’s too late to make some resolutions! Unless you’re happily settled or currently in a relationship that’s lasted for more than 3 months, chances are you’re looking to up the fish count in your love barrel. And while that may sound daunting, it’s easy to master once you give it a go. Who wouldn’t want a charming gentleman such as yourself? So here are five must have New Year’s resolutions to improve your love life this year:
Approach guys. A lot of guys.
Even if you consider your personality to be less dominant, don’t expect everybody else to do the work for you in a relationship, even at square one. If you see someone you like, approach them. Not only will you get the chance to see what might transpire, you’ll get in some important flirtation practice. In fact, approach guys even if you’re not 100% interested in them. If nothing else, you’ll increase your prowess when the real deal comes along. But it’s very possible you’ll find yourself talking with the man of your dreams. You were just blinded by your physical expectations! Consider giving it a try.
Check Your Body Language
I know you’re shy. I know you’re pessimistic. I know you’ve been burned before. But none of these are a good excuse to give off poor body language when you’re looking for a guy. You turn yourself into a self-fulfilling prophecy. Nobody wants the guy who’s sitting there with his arms crossed and a sour look on his face. Loosen up, smile, and learn to be self-aware when your body language strays to the icky. It’ll seem like work at first, but as you get more used to smiling and keeping your arms away from your chest, the more natural it’ll become.
Work on Your Conversation Skills
The best way to get to know someone better is to actually talk to them, but if you’re somebody who easily gets tongue-tied or awkward, people are going to find it hard to get close to you. I know, being an introvert or lacking in social skills is tough, but there are ways around it without compromising who you are. Consider taking a public speaking course or, if you don’t have the time or money, just practice talking to others. Say hello to the waiter, strike up small conversations while waiting in line at the register. These little steps can help make you feel more at ease for the big moment when you meet someone especially cute.
Don’t Lie
Plenty of people may like a 6’4”, 23-year-old underwear model, but nobody likes a liar. Especially if doing some virtual flirting, keep things honest. Don’t make up lies or half-truths about your age, body type, or occupation. If you’re hoping to meet face-to-face or take things to a more serious level, chances are they’re going to find out you’re a fake pretty darn quick. Be proud of yourself. As cliché as it sounds, a healthy amount of confidence does wonders for making you attractive to other people. So get out there and be you!
Know that You’re Wonderful
Don’t let the opinions of someone else determine how you’re going to feel about yourself. If someone rejects you, no matter his reason, forget about him. Easier said than done, right? But it’s true. We’ve all been rejected at least once in our lives, and although it never feels good, it’s a great growing experience in learning who you are and what does (and doesn’t) define you. That loser doesn’t define you. You’re awesome. Move on to the next cute thing.
